The not so great rebound...

So, getting over Alex was pretty major for me. It was a punch to the gut, the crying and tissue use was overwhelming...not to mention breathing through my nose was becoming a challenge! I needed to get over him, and move on. Now, I will be honest, I live in a very small town. I don't drink or party or go "out" a lot, so meeting men is very hard. So, I had met Alex and Cody both online. I proceeded with this method, and have had good luck finding men to chat with, get to know...but being that I am STILL single, well...let's just say they haven't exactly been "the one." 


I met Trent just a few weeks after Alex and I split. I wasn't ready (but you couldn't tell me that!), and he was desperate. NOT a good combo, just sayin'! So, our "relationship" (if you want to call it that), lasted 2 weeks. WOW! 2 WHOLE weeks! :-P He was very quick to want to meet my children (which never happened), and had shown me RINGS that he was interested in purchasing for me as a "promise" to our future...SLOW DOWN BOY!! That honestly freaked me out...I am all for making a commitment as far as being monogamous, but seriously? A RING?! Take a pill dude, it's not happening. 


One morning, he was over (he had stayed the night). I was feeling quite frisky, and the night before he had shrugged me off to watch a movie (yes, for real!)...so, I was taking advantage of this particular time. I had bought curtains the previous day to put up in my Kitchen and a mirror that I needed to hang up and such. He was hell bent on helping me do these things (even though we had 12 hours before I had to pick up my kiddos), so much so that he refused to have sex with me so he could go downstairs and hang up my decorations. Yes, I have been asked numerous times if he was gay! Sigh...


So, Trent also knew I had a few male friends, from High School whom I chatted with. Some harmlessly flirted with me, and he knew this as well. The last straw with him was when he got on my computer (without asking), and my facebook page opens right up...instead of him logging out to check his own...he apparently stayed in mine. My friend Jed popped me up to chat and had made a flirty comment. He got pissed, and was like "who is Jed?" I said, that is the one I told you about who likes to flirt...and asked what was said...he repeated, and I laughed. He didn't like that, and pretended to get into his facebook, and chat with his female friend Renee...well, he was talking and "typing" at the same time, and was like "how's the twins?" and then looked point blank at me and said "she doesn't have children." I was like WTF? So, I got pissed, and made him leave. 2 hours later he is texting me all "I'm sorry" and blah blah...that dude has more issues than a magazine rack. Seriously. 


Oh, and should I mention that this guy was 40, no job, no car and lived with mommy and daddy....mmhmm...yup! Needless to say, that was the last of Trent. 

In the Beginning...

Well, I'm not going back to the beginning of the human race, although, if we could document it in it's entirety maybe we could see where things got royally messed up with all of us! But, that is a different blog, I unfortunately cannot change how we as humans are now wired. 


However, I can start with my separation from my (soon to be) ex-husband. We will just call him "the ex." Let's just face it, it's easier all around. Oh, and any names here have been changed to protect their privacy...hey! I do have some respect, come on! :-P


So, I separated from the ex in October of 2009. I had been "done," per say, in my marriage for about 3 years. So, for me, I was more than ready to start talking to the opposite sex again, and see what the single life was like. I had a few "online" male friends, one of which I went to see a few times in Canada, his name was Cody, but (and here we go..) no vehicle. So, he had rented one a couple times to come see me. But, alas, the distance (and a country) killed it. It was mutual. 


Fast forward to Alex. Full time dad to 3 kiddos. Totally fine with this. I have 2, so my dream of a big family was sparkling in my field of vision! So, we started dating April of 2010. It was quick, fast falling in love, on both our parts. Saw each other as much as we could the first few months (I have a rule about introducing kiddos too soon, no way Jose'!), and then more after the kids met. We dated for 9 months. 2 months in I found out he chewed tobacco (an entirely disgusting habit), but his "out" for this was to tell me I never asked him about chew, only if he smoked. Ugh, you gotta love those excuses, huh? About 4 months in, I found out he was talking to other women on the internet, pretending he was single. Now, at this point, I should have dumped his ass and moved on, but nooooo I was caught up in those damn things called "feelings." We have all had them, and in these situations, they suck!! So, he claimed to not have done it with ill intent, didn't want to lose me, blah blah. I bought it. We continued to date until he kept lying to me about different things, then he started smoking again (he had quit 10 months prior to us dating), then he admitted to smoking pot because he was sooooo stressed out about our relationship. Lots more happened, but you get the idea. I was in yet another crappy relationship. The bad times started to outweigh the good...so we broke apart. Or, I guess I mainly dumped him. 'Bout time, right?