Well, I'm not going back to the beginning of the human race, although, if we could document it in it's entirety maybe we could see where things got royally messed up with all of us! But, that is a different blog, I unfortunately cannot change how we as humans are now wired.
However, I can start with my separation from my (soon to be) ex-husband. We will just call him "the ex." Let's just face it, it's easier all around. Oh, and any names here have been changed to protect their privacy...hey! I do have some respect, come on! :-P
So, I separated from the ex in October of 2009. I had been "done," per say, in my marriage for about 3 years. So, for me, I was more than ready to start talking to the opposite sex again, and see what the single life was like. I had a few "online" male friends, one of which I went to see a few times in Canada, his name was Cody, but (and here we go..) no vehicle. So, he had rented one a couple times to come see me. But, alas, the distance (and a country) killed it. It was mutual.
Fast forward to Alex. Full time dad to 3 kiddos. Totally fine with this. I have 2, so my dream of a big family was sparkling in my field of vision! So, we started dating April of 2010. It was quick, fast falling in love, on both our parts. Saw each other as much as we could the first few months (I have a rule about introducing kiddos too soon, no way Jose'!), and then more after the kids met. We dated for 9 months. 2 months in I found out he chewed tobacco (an entirely disgusting habit), but his "out" for this was to tell me I never asked him about chew, only if he smoked. Ugh, you gotta love those excuses, huh? About 4 months in, I found out he was talking to other women on the internet, pretending he was single. Now, at this point, I should have dumped his ass and moved on, but nooooo I was caught up in those damn things called "feelings." We have all had them, and in these situations, they suck!! So, he claimed to not have done it with ill intent, didn't want to lose me, blah blah. I bought it. We continued to date until he kept lying to me about different things, then he started smoking again (he had quit 10 months prior to us dating), then he admitted to smoking pot because he was sooooo stressed out about our relationship. Lots more happened, but you get the idea. I was in yet another crappy relationship. The bad times started to outweigh the good...so we broke apart. Or, I guess I mainly dumped him. 'Bout time, right?
However, I can start with my separation from my (soon to be) ex-husband. We will just call him "the ex." Let's just face it, it's easier all around. Oh, and any names here have been changed to protect their privacy...hey! I do have some respect, come on! :-P
So, I separated from the ex in October of 2009. I had been "done," per say, in my marriage for about 3 years. So, for me, I was more than ready to start talking to the opposite sex again, and see what the single life was like. I had a few "online" male friends, one of which I went to see a few times in Canada, his name was Cody, but (and here we go..) no vehicle. So, he had rented one a couple times to come see me. But, alas, the distance (and a country) killed it. It was mutual.
Fast forward to Alex. Full time dad to 3 kiddos. Totally fine with this. I have 2, so my dream of a big family was sparkling in my field of vision! So, we started dating April of 2010. It was quick, fast falling in love, on both our parts. Saw each other as much as we could the first few months (I have a rule about introducing kiddos too soon, no way Jose'!), and then more after the kids met. We dated for 9 months. 2 months in I found out he chewed tobacco (an entirely disgusting habit), but his "out" for this was to tell me I never asked him about chew, only if he smoked. Ugh, you gotta love those excuses, huh? About 4 months in, I found out he was talking to other women on the internet, pretending he was single. Now, at this point, I should have dumped his ass and moved on, but nooooo I was caught up in those damn things called "feelings." We have all had them, and in these situations, they suck!! So, he claimed to not have done it with ill intent, didn't want to lose me, blah blah. I bought it. We continued to date until he kept lying to me about different things, then he started smoking again (he had quit 10 months prior to us dating), then he admitted to smoking pot because he was sooooo stressed out about our relationship. Lots more happened, but you get the idea. I was in yet another crappy relationship. The bad times started to outweigh the good...so we broke apart. Or, I guess I mainly dumped him. 'Bout time, right?
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